expert party tips

Absolutely. If you've thrown a party, you know how much time, effort and money goes into it. Bringing a gift helps offset that, and it's a good way to get invited back.

So the next question...what do you bring? That depends on how formal the party is and how well you know the host. For a casual get-together, beverages or food for the party is always a welcome gift.

At a more formal event, bring a gift for the host: muffins for the morning after, a bottle of booze, a bouquet of flowers, a book or gourmet chocolates. For a really lavish affair hosted by a close friend, a massage or after-party clean-up service is much appreciated.

Some gift ground rules to keep in mind:
• Don't upstage the host. If you're bringing food or drink for the party, find out what the host plans to serve first, and bring something that would complement it.

• Don't add to the host's stress. If you're buying flowers, get them arranged in a vase so the host doesn't have to run around looking for one.

• Do include a note. Hosts have a million things to think about during a party, and remembering who brought the great chocolates might slip their mind.